I was inspired when reading Pamela’s entry on this subject: future self and by the 360 reviews due at work. Somehow when you look back at your year, you keep going and realize how much you’ve accomplished in 5 yrs /10 yrs etc. It’s a pretty wonderful exercise! Of course, you have to look at the places where you stumbled, or downright fell. I’m never good at accepting my faults – but this helped!
So, I’m writing my letters and decided to add a picture that sums up my year.
Here I am right after I got bangs for the first time in years. I felt so pretty that day – I think I need a haircut to celebrate my next birthday!
Future Self. Imagine yourself five years from now. What advice would you give your current self for the years ahead?
In 5 years I will 33. That used to seem SO OLD….now it seems so young! Only 33?!
Dear 33 yr-old *Samantha*:
I’m so proud of you! You met your goal weight – you look amazing! Aww – you even met a wonderful guy and didn’t sabotage it?! Awesome! ;) Have you kept the friends you loved and trusted (because you know they are few and far between!)? Did you work hard to elevate your standards of self and others? Have you stayed true to you? Are you still sparkly? (The answer better be yes!). Is your book done yet? Have you kept dedicating yourself to dance? How many things can you cross off your “Bucket List”? Did you finally realize that the secret to success was being happy with YOU?
I’m so impressed by your commitment to self improvement. Keep going and spread that important message to your kids!
Did you ever think this is where you’d be at 33? Nope – but like you learned at 27 – “Life isn’t about finding yourself…it’s about creating yourself”.
P.S. – It’s funny how all the things that used to stress you out seem inconsequential now eh? Told you so!
BONUS ROUND:: Bonus:: Write a note to yourself 10 years ago. What would you tell your younger self?
Dear 18-year old *S:
Girl! It’s gonna be a wild ride. I won’t spoil it – but you will be a completely different person in 10 years than you are now!
You’ll take up a new hobby that will at times take over your life ~ but will bring you amazing people and take you places you’d never go otherwise!
You don’t end up in the music bizness – and that’s OK. You do end up with a great job that pays the bills and surrounds you with funny, thought-provoking artsy people. Don’t change how you get there – it makes for the best stories!
You’re going to fall in love….and fall out. It’s going to hurt like hell. But, you do survive. In fact, you should learn your lesson the first go ’round – but you’ll let him back in your life a few more times. Musicians are STILL your weakness!
You shouldn’t be so quick to judge. You’re not perfect – you can’t expect someone else to be!
You should take more chances – and worry less.
You should spend more time with the people who matter – because sometimes they’ll be taken too soon.
You should write more, and spend less time online.
Don’t hold grudges with yourself. You’re going to make mistakes. Sometimes they’ll cost you emotionally or financially….sometimes both. In the end, you’ll come out a better person. I promise.
When the one person you still miss to the day walks out of your life to pursue his dreams – let him…but don’t shut him out completely. Years later, you’ll still regret it and miss him.
You’re beautiful (pity it takes you until 27 to realize it) and smart and funny. You’re sweet and thoughtful – and even when it’s not reciprocated….don’t change those parts of yourself!!
P.S. – You can’t control everything. Accept it and stop trying!
That was crazy. Thinking about your life in rewind is strange. Thinking about the things you miss (the best friend who walked away to pursue his life with a new GF) and the things you don’t (those friends I nicknamed the Drama Mafia).Thinking about the places I’ve been, the people I’ve met….it’s awesome and somewhat surreal!
I feel more open, more ready to take on what’s next.
I’ve spent years making excuses and playing it safe – I’m ready to rock and roll! Bring on 2011!!