So, having been fat since I was about 10 or so, I have grown into adulthood knowing that the stakes are different in America when you’re overweight. It’s not “fair”, it’s not “right”…but it’s true. Thankfully, I have been unscathed to anything really horrible – but I have had my share of mortification (more on that in a later post).
So, I’d like to dispel some myths about being fat from the “average” persons perspective. This is something I’ve been mulling over for a while, and I feel it needs to be said.
Myths about being fat:
We all eat McDonald’s. 24/7…
…gross. Nope. Try again. I’m not fat because of fast food…I’m fat because of cheesecake, portions that were 3X a normal size, chicken parmigiano and martinis. Lots of martinis. I can’t even tell you the last time I ate fast food! Sure, some people may fall victim to the drive-thru, but don’t assume just because someone is fat they must LOVE fast food.
We’re all slobs who can’t dress.
Hahahaha NO. I pride myself on looking cute – even if I’m just going to the store. I might not be able to shop at 95% of the popular stores – but I manage to find outfits that fit, are stylish and work for the season/event. I’ll admit, it’s harder to find cute wears – but this chick will NEVER rock a mumu. Never! 🙂
We gorge ourselves all day long and love buffets.
I hate buffets…too much food, being touched by too many people. Yuck! I’ve gone days where I’m not all that hungry – and of course I have had days when I am RAVENOUS. I’m not in this position because I ate huge quantities of cheap food every day, but rather because I didn’t control WHAT I ate and why. Oh, and I wasn’t really friends with physical activity. In fact, we were estranged. We’re in counselling now trying to work on our issues.
We have NO idea we’re actually fat.
This always makes me laugh. Society looks at fat people as if we’re in the dark. Like being fat is a secret that we haven’t yet figured out. We know. Trust me. My house (like yours) does have mirrors. 🙂
We instantly connect with other fat people.
Again, not true. My NYC BFF is small, in shape and wears a size 8 (if I had to guess). My Boston BFF is about a size 16/18 so she is “plus-sized” but she is ATHLETIC – she’s biking the Pan Mass Challenge in a few weeks. I doubt you, my dear readers are gearing up to ride 110 miles in the dead summer heat of August for a good cause, are you!? Sure, I have friends who are overweight, but I wasn’t drawn to them because of that. In fact, I tend to avoid other fat women…they’re usually clingy and depressing. Who needs that?! (Sidenote: If you’re reading this, I’m not lumping you in with “those women”…you know the ones I mean, no one likes them).
It’s not our fault we’re fat.
FALSE! Who’s fault is it?! It’s not genetics, it’s not our environment…we made bad choices, we’re paying the price. Stop placing the blame and use that energy to fix the problem. Fin.
Now, some “truths” that sadly come with being fat….like it or not.
Fat = invisible.
Every day I walk into work holding at least 4 things (purse, lunch, coffee…who knows what). I can’t tell you how many times someone sees me struggling trying to balance my things and open the door with my badge; and ignores me. However! The SECOND I am walking with a skinny woman – poof, instant door holding!! It’s sad. There are exceptions; I do work with some guys who are genuine sweethearts, but they’re few and far between. Recently, someone parked thisclose to my car at work, and I couldn’t get out. When I rolled down my window and yelled to him he said (and I quote) “Sorry fattie! Lose weight and you’ll be able to fit”. Ass.
“Fat” precedes every name someone calls us.
Fat chick, fat bitch, fat whatever….you name it, you can add fat to it. It’s ridiculous. It’s also incredibly uninspired. Try harder next time you want to insult me. God knows the nicknames I come up for every ass I deal with is more creative than that!
We’re incredibly conscious of eating in public
I hate eating in front of people – except friends. I always think if I have cake during someone’s birthday…or eat a burger during a company BBQ that I’m being judged. Honestly, I’m not sure if this is a truth – or just something that I’ve always assumed. Maybe my thin friends can enlighten me. I always get so mad when I see images on TV of fat people GORGING themselves at a restaurant. We’re not all like that!
When you’re fat, you better be able to do tricks…
Ha. So, the average fat person isn’t just fat. No, no. They have to be fat AND something. Fat and funny (my brother). Fat and sarcastic (me). Fat and a complete sweetheart (me only to people who don’t really know me yet, haha). You are forced to overcompensate for your weight by bringing something more to the table than the average person.
OK, off my soapbox for the day and onto the positive.
Hearing that my blog has helped friends become more accountable with their eating – or even inspire them to lose weight with me truly means the world to me! It helps me think out what I eat and make better decisions every day!
Thanks guys! ❤