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Fatties, Winos and Druggies = Equal?!

on October 28, 2010

My brother sent me this article and I have not stopped fuming since I read it.

http://www.shine.yahoo.com/channel/health/controversy-over-fatties-sparks-apology-2404430/

The author of the controversial blog entry titled “Should “Fatties” Get a Room?”,  Maura Kelly is not someone I’m familiar with. So, I did some Googling and it turns out she is a recovering anorexic. If we categorize all eating disorders (both over-eating and under-eating) into one “disease” – shouldn’t she have more compassion for “fatties”?

She says: “So anyway, yes, I think I’d be grossed out if I had to watch two characters with rolls and rolls of fat kissing each other … because I’d be grossed out if I had to watch them doing anything. To be brutally honest, even in real life, I find it aesthetically displeasing to watch a very, very fat person simply walk across a room — just like I’d find it distressing if I saw a very drunk person stumbling across a bar or a heroine addict slumping in a chair.”

So wait…..HOLD UP! “Fatties” are now in the same category as alcoholics and drug addicts?! Really Maura? Really?

(P.S. – the word you’re looking for is HEROIN….not heroine).

I’m still shaking my head in disbelief.

How could a professional (with a self-proclaimed eating disorder!) be OK posting that kind of slander? She said herself she’s never watched the show (and neither have I) but judging by the time slot it’s in (CBS Mon @ 9:30pm) I can say without a doubt that it’s not a soft-core porn. You’re not seeing nudity from a major network during a primetime spot. If you were, MAYBE just maybe I could see your argument about not wanting to witness it. In addition, the characters on the show met and started dating during an Overeaters Anonymous meeting! So, they’re trying to lose weight and get healthy together!

Mike and Molly - for reference. I don't know about you, but they don't appear to be naked and groping each other do they?! Nope, didn't think so.

Should “Fatties” (btw I fucking hate that word with a PASSION) have to live in a cave while slimming down before being accepted back into society?

How would Maura feel if another blogger attached underweight people like Lindsey Lohan or Rachael Zoe? If they were compared to heroin addicts and winos….would it be kosher? I suspect not.

I think what actually outraged me more than her controversial article was the comments made by readers:

“Fatties should consider suicide. No one wants to look at you, never mind share the air with you.”

“Morbid obesity IS disgusting.”

and my favorite:

“Cancer is a disease you have no control over. Obesity is something that you do have control over. Shut your mouth, move your fat ass and maybe you won’t die.”

Sweet huh?

I’m constantly amazed by how ignorant people can be. In 2010 in the society we live in we STILL have these prejudices and hates? Honestly?! Oy.  Vey.

Lastly, Maura’s  “apology” was so insincere it was sickening…I really hope readers consider the content and contributors of Marie Claire before subscribing. I know I won’t pick their magazine up again!

I would really like to apologize for the insensitive things I’ve said in this post. Believe it or not, I never wanted anyone to feel bullied or ashamed after reading this, and I sorely regret that it upset people so much. A lot of what I said was unnecessary. It wasn’t productive, either.

Now, before I get comments about “the world isn’t fair” – I know it’s not, and I agree that people are entitled to their own opinions. That being said, I think the manner in which this blog posting by Maura was brought about it just plain tacky – especially for a “professional”.  If you wanted “open dialogue” then you shouldn’t compare us to druggies and winos ~ or say that we disgust you just by living.

So, sound off – and be honest:

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12 responses to “Fatties, Winos and Druggies = Equal?!

  1. Hilary says:

    You know, nothing like a little controversy to boost traffic, get more people linking to your site, and just generally gain media attention. While I certainly don’t agree with what she said and in fact (referring to some of the comments you posted that the post received) there are medical conditions that can make it nearly impossible to lose weight…. so it seems her audience may be misinformed 😉

    Don’t let it bother you (I know, easier said than done). In a way, aren’t you glad you know how she feels about it now? Also, since you mention she was anorexic at one point, her view of the human body isn’t healthy regardless.

  2. Curt says:

    While I agree she’s lame I hesitate to censor anyone.
    This ranks right up there with “Take the pledge to end the word”. George Carlin was right, they’re just words and frankly we don’t have any right to not have our feelings hurt. Its a big bad world and if the worst thing that happens to me is somebody calls me a “fatty” (in fact I refer to myself as “fatass” pretty much daily) then I should thank my lucky stars for being among the top 1% of the richest, best educated people in the world. Thats not me bragging about how rich or smart I am its a sad commentary on how poor and poorly educated the rest of the world is…

    • I’m not saying she should be censored – but she should OWN her statements and not make some bullshit apology. I read one article where someone says “She’s a hurt, sad individual and what she needs is our love”. I think if I offered a hug she might spontaneously combust at the thoughts of my fat rolls touching her!

      • Larry Downes says:

        She was probably forced to make the apology. Although, if my employer tried to force me to apologize for an earnest opinion on my blog, I would tell them to pound sand. If they’re so spineless they can’t stand up for the 1st Amendment, then I wouldn’t want their money.

  3. King Boston says:

    Maura Kelly is a raging asshole I couldn’t believe she said she’s disgusted to watch us cross a room I’m so tired of constantly being judged but like ive always said if only I smoked crack people would be lined up to help me..

  4. She’s now the second person with an eating disorder that I’ve seen publicly attack fat people. In a way, it makes sense, because that’s the very thing they most fear becoming. But it’s no excuse. {{{hugs}}}

  5. aslahan says:

    Jezebel has been all over this; their latest, if you’re interested:
    http://jezebel.com/5675859/marie-claire-fatties-piece-gives-birth-to-brilliance

  6. Memie says:

    Yup no matter where you turn people who are miserable always pass judgement onto others. I have a relative that acts the same way she is always saying am I fatter than her and she is a toothpick. Or look at her look at her how can someone let themselves get that way. And I say stop it and why can’t you be happy your space? Yup you guessed it she is miserable and always compares herself to others instead of getting on with her life. OY

  7. Layne says:

    I read that article today and was so mad at the end of it. So ridiculous what some people say…. and especially after saying right there that she had an eating disorder… Maybe you don’t like yourself being overweight, but leave everyone else alone. Some people are just so ignorant it is a shame society lets them get away with something like that article!

  8. John Lanoue says:

    I’m been routinely taunted and mocked over the past 20+ years because of my political beliefs (I’m a conservative in the bluest of blue states) but it just makes me stronger, we all have our crosses to bear!

    Stereotyping/generalizing a group of people because of preconceived notions is ignorant and just another form of bigotry, just tune it out, bigots are not worth your time…

    Personally, I love the free flow of information, I can’t imagine life without it… I get a rise out of reading profoundly ignorant and incendiary commentary like the crap you discussed above, there’s definitely a takeaway from that article.

    jl

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