When I think of things I need to blog about, I write them in a memo on my BlackBerry. Then, when I have the time I sit down and pen the entry. A few days ago I wrote “World doesn’t revolve around me….I change, my world does not.”
Last night on “Biggest Loser” the remaining players go home for 2 weeks and one of the contestants TOTALLY read my mind! He said: “I am going to come home and have the same friends and the same hobbies and the same food around me. The world isn’t going to change around me – I change and the world will remain in tact.”
I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately, and I felt vindicated that I was not alone in that realization.
I have the same friends/jobs/hobbies/life I had at my heaviest weight….but I have changed. In order to make this work as I continue losing weight, I need to accept that the world is not going to accommodate me.
Tonight I am seeing some of my favorite customers and work friends for dinner. The choices in the area are not the healthiest, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t go – or that I get to cheat. No, it means I need to work within the boundaries of what I’ve been given. I will be a total PITA to the server and ask for a super customized order. I don’t care. I won’t drink, because in the long run I want to be thin more than I want that margarita. “Don’t trade what you want MOST for what you want at the moment.” (thank you WW, I like that one).
Now maybe it sounds like cruel and unusual punishment to go out to eat where I can’t enjoy myself. But, it’s not fair to inconvenience the masses for me. I am not the only star in the sky. Actually, I like the reference “Not the only muffin in the tin” – but I couldn’t find a cute muffin picture to use. Haha.
So, while I can’t do EVERYTHING I might want to….I can still go out and see friends, I can still travel etc. I just need to be mindful that not everyone around me is on a diet. It’s like when you’ve ended a relationship … the world isn’t going to stop spinning just because you have a broken heart. That sounds like a country song! Oh wait, it is…by Reba McEntire:
But oh this sun is blinding me
As it wakes me from the dark
I guess the world didn’t stop
For my broken heart
I grew up listening to country music. Every so often I will get a phrase stuck in my head and I can’t out my finger on where it came from. 😉 Thanks Mom!
Anyways, so the world isn’t going to go on hiatus while I get my shit together. There will be dinners and parties and vacations; my challenge is to adapt myself to each one of those situations and make the best choice I can make with what I’m given. When I go to Vegas next month I will practice this restraint. I can control my breakfast and dinner but lunch is not easy. I only have a limited window of time, and the choices at the convention center are not ideal. Bringing food is not an option (no place to put it) so I will have to make do with what I’m given. It’s like Teddy Roosevelt says: “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”
How have you guys adapted yourselves for a world that doesn’t change?